Updated on June 30, 2025 with new information and some creative editing

The bad guy isn’t always the bad guy, and the victim isn’t always the victim.

It’s something I learned a long, long time ago through personal experiences in life, in work, and in play.

See, there are those out there who love to play the victim when things don’t go their way. There are mean spirited, dirty people who will throw other people under the bus if it makes them look better – or at least not as bad.

It’s a shame, but it’s the truth.

This looks to be the case with recent events that unfolded at a U13 girls iModel qualifying game last Friday night between Glen Shields Juventus (Juve) and Kleinburg Nobleton Soccer Club (KNSC).

With only about four or five minutes left in match that Juve was leading 4-1 at the time, this incident occurred.

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In the video you can hear a person (if you listen very carefully) say “I’m going to stab you” to someone.

A child on the field then said that the man said he was going to stab her, and an adult said, yeah I heard that. The man in question has denied saying it to a child, and many believe he was yelling it at the ref or another adult (more on that below).

Before we go any further, let me be very clear on this: there is no room for threats to be uttered like “I’m going to stab you” in any setting. It’s even worse when it comes to a U13 soccer match that was played at Concord Thornhill Regional Park.

The man who yelled that is already deservedly suspended by his club and any other consequences he faces will be a message to other parents and people to act with more decorum and respect.

As a very smart lady mentioned to me this weekend, this situation makes us all look bad as soccer families, clubs, parents, officials, leagues. It’s a black eye at a time when the beautiful game is more popular than ever around the globe.

Also, some people online started to confuse the fact the game took place in the City of Vaughan with thinking that the Vaughan Soccer Club was involved, which isn’t the case.

By now, the CTV report on the events in question has been making the rounds. There is also a better and more balanced CBC story – I like to read different perspectives and I encourage everyone to do the same.

Context Matters

One issue I have with how the original story was presented was that it was making the Juve team and one of their parents look like the only aggressors in this situation. That’s not accurate at all.

The Juve parent in question is definitely a part of the overall problem, but he’s not the only one. I’ve heard from many former KNSC players and their parents about the toxic culture within this particular team.

More than one parent of young girl players who left this team told me they left because of the behaviour of the coaches and parents.

KNSC is considered by most of their opponents to be the dirtiest team in the division. Their coaches are not the saints they are making themselves out to be. And their parents have a habit of yelling, screaming, and being outright rude to the referees, players, and other parents.

One parent from a club not mentioned above emailed me when I published this piece (before the updates and creative editing) to say their parents are bullies to everyone around them.

Not only have I witnessed this firsthand in my daughter’s games against them, but many other parents from our team and other teams have as well.

In an indoor game, the KNSC head coach gave the ref a double middle finger, told him to “f*** off,” and one of their parents started kicking the walls because they were losing.

In an outdoor game just weeks ago, three KNSC players received yellow cards for constant fouling of our players and many of our kids came home with irregular scratches and bruises from dirty play.

In that game, one of the KNSC players took a tough shoulder to shoulder challenge from one of our players and fell to the ground. Rather than see if his daughter lying hurt on the ground was okay, the girl’s dad yelled to the ref, “don’t check on her, do your job and give a yellow card.”

That’s the mentality of this KNSC team that is now playing the victim against the Juve team, who beat them 4-1 and prevented them from advancing to the iModel C1 division.

In that last match, that is now becoming infamous due to the verbal assault by one person to a yet to be determined other person, there several dirty plays and fouls committed by KNSC players without any real consequences from the referee (i.e. yellow or red cards).

Note, that the play in the video could (should?) be considered “intent to injure,” and result in at least a yellow card. You can hear spectators yelling a variation of “where’s the card?” There was no card given and the situation got worse.

In the CTV story, they report she was “bumped” from behind. Anyone who knows soccer knows that was not a simple “bump,” but rather a full fledge elbow and forearm into the spine.

I would love for the full game video to be made public and have all the “investigative authorities” watch how many times one of the Juve players (who scored a hat trick that game) is targeted with aggressive plays and subsequently had to leave the game (likely due to injury).

In the ensuing aftermath of that play on the video, both sets of parents began engaging in less than appropriate behaviour that devolved into some forms of physicality. This again is from several eyewitness accounts.

It’s disturbing as a parent of a U13 girls soccer player who loves this sport. I’ve coached, I’ve played, I’m the vice president of two clubs, and I have stated publicly this person should be banned for life from attending youth soccer events.

If not for life, at least for a very, very long time.

As well, more investigation into the behaviour of both sets of parents, coaching staffs, and even the referee’s ability to properly officiate a match needs to come into question.

Everyone can point to the one person who uttered a threat during a heated and emotional affair to say “that’s the bad guy,” but according to everything I’ve learned, there are a lot of “bad guys” in this situation.

Bad Look

The KNSC head coach and her assistant spoke to the media before any investigation could be done and immediately accused that person of threatening a 12-year-old girl.

No confirmation that the accusation was true, no proof presented, just their words and the words of a player and parent who were angry at the other parents and team during a tense moment of time.

That accusation without proof could ruin a person’s life. But, they didn’t care, they bypassed all appropriate protocol, which should include contacting the club officials, making an official complaint with the league, allowing due process to occur, etcetera.

And frankly the board from the Kleinburg Nobleton Soccer Club should have been making the agreed upon club statement, not the coaches of the team. Now, had all the investigations taken place and the results determined, then it’s time to have the coaches share their thoughts one way or the other.

Many neutral observers in attendance have reported to me that they believe the person who yelled “I’m going to stab you” was yelling at the ref for not protecting their kids. Other’s believe it was at another parent as there was a shoving match breaking out.

No one I spoke to believed it was directed toward one of the children playing soccer.

Indeed that is what an internal investigation done by Glen Shields Juventus has determined, who have temporarily suspending the individual until all official investigations by the authorities are complete.

From their official statement, “while early media reported an public statements suggested the comment was made toward a young player, our findings do not support that account.”

“Glen Shields Juventus FC upholds a strict zero-tolerance policy toward abusive behaviour in any form, whether directed a players, referees, coaches, or spectators.”

Just a thought, but if I’m a coach (which I coached both my son’s and daughter’s teams for many years before taking a break as of last fall), I’m not going to the media with any potentially slanderous accusations until I coordinate with my club, file official complaints with the league, and have due process in action.

When you call the media first, it makes it look like you’re trying to spin the narrative in your favour because the tangible proof isn’t there.

It looks like you’re trying to find a way to circumvent the results on the field, which have sent you to the C2 Division, and trying to get some sympathetic ears to undeservedly place you in the C1 Division.

Now, I’m not accusing the coaches of KNSC of doing that, but that’s the bad look you have when you go all over the media talking about something that you don’t have all the facts about yet and don’t let official investigations take place first.

Final thoughts

If someone is continuously being attacked and there are no real repercussions, such as yellow and red cards being handed out, the situation will eventually boil over in one way or another.

I ask any parents to watch their children or even their children’s teammates being attacked consistently by another player or another team and not have any reaction.

The truth is that there are thousands of kids playing soccer in Ontario, and occasionally a parent or two gets out of hand. The vast majority of us know how to comport ourselves appropriately and be examples for our children.

But in each case where someone gets out of hand, the whole story needs to be told so that the public doesn’t suddenly go on a witch hunt.

News reports that don’t present all the facts, have the appropriate background and try to paint youth soccer in a bad light based on a bad apple is not helping anyone at all . . . well, except the mainstream news outlet looking for clicks.

That’s it for me. Ciao for Now!